As my fellow working actors know, keeping morale up can be difficult at times, but knowing I was perfect for “The Astronaut Wives Club,” I made it my mission to book a role on the show by doing everything in my power to make this dream a reality.
Catch me as Mrs. Ted Wilkins on Thursday’s episode of “The Astronaut Wives Club” on ABC at 8 p.m. EST.
Know that your goals and aspirations can become your reality if you are determined enough!
Here are 28 things I did to make this goal a reality.
28. I cleaned house. And I’m not talking about where I live either. I worked on healing past wounds and letting go of negative relationships that were not supporting my journey, allowing me to focus more on myself and the things I wanted to accomplish in my career.
27. I got specific with my casting and uniqueness in the industry. Knowing how to pull off different period looks and getting specific with my characters’ wardrobes has led me to many bookings including this one. By honoring my singularity and realizing that people in the industry deserve to know me, it gave me the confidence I needed to accomplish my goal.
26. I did a play. Set in the ’60s, I played socialite Susan Mary Alsop, in David Auburn’s “The Columnist.” I had not done a play since the birth of my daughter and was craving a return to theater. I invited a producer friend of mine who afterwards told me I would be great for this new show called “The Astronaut Wives Club.”
25. I got excited and passionate about the project. I put my heart and soul behind my actions knowing that when I follow my passion, success follows me.
24. I believed without a doubt that I would book a role. I let my excitement for being on the show lead me instead of doubts and fears. If you believe it’s possible, so will everyone else.
23. I spoke my goal out loud. Sometimes we keep our dreams and goals to ourselves afraid of what others might think, but when we say them out load, we speak them into existence. Your words have tremendous power.
22. I read Lily Koppel’s book, “The Astronaut Wives Club: A True Story.” When I told my family my goal, my sister—who lent me the book— got all excited because she had just bought it, which I found odd since she hadn’t read a book since “Little House on the Prairie.” This coincidence showed me I was on the right path.
21. I used social media to engage friends. I shared my journey with pictures and posting on Facebook and Instagram and every like and comment made me feel supported.
20. I purchased vintage 1960s outfits for my audition. I wanted to be prepared when the audition came, so I found two beautiful outfits at a thrift store that I could choose from when the opportunity arrived.
19. I asked friends for help. You can’t achieve your goals alone and I called on many friends who shared their time and talents with me when I needed help.
18. I took 1960s-inspired headshots. My photographer friend took some amazing photos of me in my vintage outfits to use in my marketing materials.
17. I bought a NASA space shuttle keychain. Having something tangible in my hands that I could see and feel helped me to stay focused on my goal daily.
16. I connected with someone attached to the project. A friend of mine told me she had worked on a television show with an actor cast as one of the wives. Sharing mutual friends on Facebook, I messaged her congratulating her and telling her how I truly felt I was meant to be on the show. She was so kind and told me to listen to that feeling because it was most likely true. It was amazing when I got to set and introduced myself to her how happy she was that I had made it happen. Ironically, my scene is opposite her on the show.
15. I did volunteer work. I co-chair the SAG-AFTRA Houston Conservatory and we brought in casting director Ryan Glorioso from New Orleans to lead a workshop for our actors. I volunteered to be his liaison in town picking him up from the airport and taking him to the event, and it was great connecting with him as a person, not just an actor. Two weeks after this, a friend texted me saying he was going to be the local casting director for the show.
14. I emailed the show’s local CD. After hearing the good news I sent Ryan an email congratulating him on getting the show, sent my ’60s headshots and told him my goal. Five minutes later he emailed me back telling me to make sure my agents submitted me when the casting notices came out.
13. I signed up for Dallas Travers’ 42-Day Book A Job Challenge. This was a game changer for me and something I highly recommend. Dallas helped me get specific with not only my marketing, but with doing the internal work needed to shift my thoughts, words and actions to align with my goal.
12. I told three people my goal each day. At first this was hard, but by the end I was telling store cashiers and complete strangers my goal, making many new friends along the way.
11. I said daily mantras to myself. One of my favorites was: “Why does Stephanie Savage, the executive producer of the show love me so much and want to cast me in ‘The Astronaut Wives Club?’ ”
10. I wrote down the date that I would book. I wrote on a notecard, “I will book a role on ‘AWC’ by November 13, 2014, and it will be awesome!” I read the card out loud daily, getting the call from my agent on November 12.
9. I shared my goal with five CDs. I did mailings to five different CDs for five weeks, including the show’s L.A. casting director Patrick Rush.
8. I kept a gratitude journal. I wrote down five things I was grateful for that had happened each day, always ending with my gratitude for booking a role on the show.
7. I visualized actually working on the show. I let my imagination run wild and got specific with describing details, including what the set would look like and how the weather would be.
6. I had fun with my marketing materials. I couldn’t resist the cool astronaut-in-space photo template at the Walgreens photo kiosk (which I accidentally stumbled upon while printing out 4x6 photos of my ’60s headshots), so I combined the two with my face appearing on the astronaut’s helmet.
5. I flew to New Orleans to audition. I finally got the audition I had been waiting for and nailed it. Although I did not book my first audition, I was not disappointed as I knew my role was coming.
4. I sent thank you cards. I sent thank you cards to the casting directors of the show thanking them for the opportunity of auditioning for them.
3. I howled at the moon. Just kidding. But I did think about being on the show every time I looked up at the moon, and took it as a sign I would get there.
2. I put myself on tape. I got my second audition request Halloween night, which a friend help me tape at my house, and knew the role was mine.
1. I picked up the phone from my agent telling me I was up for network approval. Houston, we have liftoff.
Training and practice is vital as an actor, but so is keeping a positive mindset. The sky is the limit if you never stop believing.